Jim: So the first question, when you want to get started, take a step back. Why do you want to get started? What are you looking to accomplish? I’ll specific it for a moment just to give you a clear example of what I’m talking about. If you want to lose weight, don’t use the same language you always use. “I’ve got to drop 40 pounds. I’ve got to lose weight. I’ve got to start workin’ out.” That has negative feelings all around it. What you want to begin thinking about is what do you want to accomplish? What do you want? What weight do you want? What size clothes do you want to wear? How do you want to feel? Remember, all of these things that you want to do to get started, are ultimately for a feeling that you’re going to get. So you want vibrant health. You want to wake up in the morning feeling alert. You want to be able to go in the store and buy clothes that make you feel really confident and attractive. You want to be able to walk and have people look up to you as role model of health. You want to experience more energy. You want to be more mobile. You want to be able to walk up and down the stairs comfortably. When you begin describing it this way, do you think that’s going to help with motivation? As opposed to, “I’ve got to do that.” A lot of people approach change and approach things they really, really want ultimately in their life and they talk about it like someone’s got a gun to their head. “I’ve got to do this. I really, that’s it I guess I should start to pay attention.” And it’s the wrong focus right from the start, okay? Why do you want to do it? Why do you want to do it? And that’s why I would begin asking the question, “Why?”
And as you answer that question you make it clear in your mind, you’re going to find that the how become easier. The motivation is uncovered, it’s unleashed and you connect yourself to that through figuring out what it is that you want. For example, Kevin, I’m going to put you on the spot. Why do you eat well and exercise?
Kevin: Because it gives me the energy to be able to do the things that I want to do.
Jim: Sure. Go on. What else?
Kevin: Very specifically it allows me to get up and exercise, and be able to use my mind and be able to create the things that I like to create and be able to really influence as many people as humanly possible.
Jim: Sure. And how does that make you feel? When you influence people?
Jim: Yeah. Notice, it goes right to, you feel that. You see, this is the important thing.
We are run by our unconscious minds, that’s what runs the majority. Imagine if you had to remind yourself to breathe. It would last about five minutes, right? Remember, our unconscious minds run things. This is the important thing to understand, the unconscious mind operates through associations, through connections. Kevin, when you explained why you eat well, there’s emotion to it. You could hear it in your voice. All of a sudden, it took you about a minute to get to, “I feel awesome.”
Jim: And you say it congruently and you feel it. Now a lot of times when people say, [grumpy voice] “How do I get started?” You hear it in their voice, there’s a perception, there’s an association to getting healthy that is, for lack of a better word, negative. And that’s what diets become, that’s what working out becomes. It becomes negative. You feel like you’re missing out. You feel deprived. You feel bored. And that’s what working out and eating healthy and losing weight is for a lot of people. And if that’s the case, that’s the first thing that we need to address. Because the people that I found out have made changes permanently are ones that changed what health means, what having this new ideal body means. And so that’s what I suggest to you. It’s not as glamorous. It’s not as glamorous as waking up tomorrow and running ten miles and saying, “I just ran ten miles, I’m on my way.” That lasts for two or three days and then you stop and go back into your old patterns. I’m going to suggest that you take a few moments, and this is the exercise you do. You take a few moments with a pad of paper and pen and write down what you’re going to get, how your life is going to change, how the quality of your life is going to improve, from having this new lifestyle, these new behaviors, these new habits, this new body.
Now Kevin, you already live it. I live it. People that have changed their bodies and that naturally eat in the way that gives them the body and the level of health that they want, they’ve made these associations and these changes. Some people are lucky enough to have been born with this and grow up with it, and some people have to learn how to do it. It’s just a process of learning. Once it happens it becomes natural, it becomes automatic. Because the change you want, that’s ultimately going to work for you, long-term permanently, is the change you don’t have to think about. Kevin, do you have to be real strict with yourself on how you eat and how you exercise now?
Kevin: Not anymore.
Jim: Right, it just becomes automatic. It’s just a behavior. So I want you to realize that good or bad behaviors, it’s not like one is easier than the other. Our culture kind of pushes some, we’re conditioned some that’s why it seems that way. But once you make your own connections and you realize how good it feels, how good it can feel to be and have the body you want in a way that feels good to you and works for you, all of a sudden it becomes obvious, it becomes natural. So that’s what I would suggest for that person. Why do you want to make this happen? Come up with the reasons. Find some compelling reasons why you want this body. Give it the attention and the energy you would give it if I said to you, “How do you get started? You run ten miles every day.” Give it that sort of focus and energy and you’ll find you’re going to unleash a lot more permanent motivation, than you have probably felt in the past.